At work RCOEI analyzes several angles, and SCUEN is free inside them.
Both are emotionally steady, so there's no strain together.
When RCOEI says “I think we should look at this more deeply,” SCUEN says “isn't this much enough?”
RCOEI's focus feels like confinement to SCUEN.
Where you clash
RCOEI's private self wants to be connected to something, and SCUEN's private self refuses connection itself.
When RCOEI says “shouldn't we linger here a bit more?”
SCUEN says “shouldn't we go somewhere else now?”
RCOEI feels SCUEN isn't serious.
SCUEN feels RCOEI is trying to bind them.
Relationship playbook
On a Saturday afternoon, the two sit in a corner seat of a big-window neighborhood cafe.
RCOEI has their laptop open, digging into one subject for the second hour, while SCUEN scrolls Instagram on their phone beside them and now and then watches people out the window.
Neither asks the other “what are you doing?”
When RCOEI looks up after an hour and says “shall I order another coffee?”
SCUEN answers “sure” and goes to get it.
That much distance is the most comfortable closeness for these two.
“When RCOEI respects SCUEN's freedom, and SCUEN pauses at RCOEI's depth now and then, the two can be together in their own ways. Both roots and wings are needed.”