

These two only resemble each other in emotional intensity. RLOEI swims alone in the depth of imagination, while SLOEN wants everyone parked at the center of their energy.
At first, SLOEN's pull draws RLOEI in. But as time passes, RLOEI realizes SLOEN can't enter their world. SLOEN takes RLOEI's silence as rejection, and RLOEI starts to want out from under SLOEN's intensity. The further the relationship goes, the more both feel the other can't be understood.
SLOEN's shadow believes "I'm the center, and everything should orbit me." RLOEI's shadow lives inside "only in this imagination am I free." When SLOEN tries to pull RLOEI into their story, RLOEI sinks deeper into imagination. SLOEN takes RLOEI's distance as personal failure, and RLOEI just wants out from under SLOEN's fixation.
When SLOEN finally goes quiet — after a long day, voice gone, just sitting on the couch — RLOEI treasures that exact half hour. The room is still and SLOEN isn't pulling anyone toward them, and for once RLOEI feels safe enough to open up a little. But SLOEN can't sit with that quiet for long. The phone goes off, "I gotta go to the next thing," and they're up. RLOEI hears the door close and goes back into their head.
“If SLOEN vows not to invade RLOEI's world, and RLOEI can choose distance instead of dismissal toward SLOEN's emotion, the two can be together while keeping their own worlds intact. That will be a relationship that runs on distance.”
Self-exploration aid. Not a basis for factual judgments.
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