At first RLUEN's unpredictability is interesting to RCOEI.
RLUEN likes that RCOEI doesn't try to control them. But over time, when RCOEI tries to remember something, RLUEN keeps trying to erase it.
Where you clash
RCOEI's private self tries to remember everything and connect it.
RLUEN's private self refuses any connection and tries to erase it.
When RCOEI says “do you remember how we met like this?”
RLUEN feels “there's no reason to remember.”
RCOEI is hurt, feeling RLUEN ignores their effort, and RLUEN thinks RCOEI's demand to remember cages them.
Relationship playbook
Meeting and parting weigh almost the same to RLUEN.
RCOEI asks “do you remember that cafe last time?” and RLUEN answers “which cafe?”
RLUEN has no intention of keeping the small memory RCOEI saved.
That asymmetry is these two's everyday.
“When RLUEN can say ‘even if I erase it, the moment with you was meaningful,’ and RCOEI can say ‘I'll remember, so you be free,’ the two can become an imperfect but honest meeting.”