RLUEN believes that neither rules nor relationships were made for them, while SCOAI makes a space comfortable for everyone.
RLUEN's rebellion tests SCOAI's capacity to embrace.
When SCOAI says “you're still with me,” RLUEN learns they don't have to drift away from society.
SCOAI too feels beside RLUEN that their warmth has meaning.
Where you clash
RLUEN's private self is a mode that refuses everything.
SCOAI's private self is a mode that embraces everything.
When RLUEN cries “I can't belong here,” SCOAI says “still, let's be together.”
RLUEN feels SCOAI's words try to imprison them, and SCOAI feels RLUEN rejects them.
Relationship playbook
The best moment together is when SCOAI tries to understand RLUEN's rebellion.
In that moment RLUEN too feels SCOAI's warmth.
“When SCOAI doesn't try to change RLUEN, and RLUEN can avoid rejecting SCOAI's warmth, the two become friends who can be with the world in a different way together.”