

The Drifting Sunshine (flowing everywhere naturally) and The Anxious Performer both love people. The Sunshine naturally melts in, the Performer wants to shine in every moment. First meeting, both feel comfortable and warm.
The Sunshine naturally comforts everyone. Neither special nor bothersome. The Performer is more emotional and passionate, wanting to make this relationship meaningful. Like the Connector, the Sunshine naturally receives the Performer's energy, but the Sunshine is calmer. The Performer at first can accept the Sunshine's unattached calmness as "You don't even have to care about me that much?"
The Sunshine naturally isn't trying to stay long. In private-self mode, even more so. But the Performer anxiously signals "Don't abandon me." The Sunshine's freedom feels like abandonment to the Performer, and the Performer's attachment feels like binding to the Sunshine. The Sunshine wants to leave, the Performer wants to hold.
Together is good, but apart the distance grows. The Performer wants the Sunshine to take them everywhere, but the Sunshine prefers going alone. Even together, the Sunshine's heart is ready to leave.
“For them to last, the Performer needs to allow the Sunshine's freedom, and the Sunshine must not ignore the Performer's anxiety. Lower expectations, be truly present when together, then meetings become more meaningful.”
Self-exploration aid. Not a basis for factual judgments.
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