Anxious When It's Not Perfect — Is It Okay to Let Go a Little?
Done with it, yet it still feels 2% short, so you stay anxious. Seeing perfectionism as a high standard, and learning to allow yourself "good enough."
You finished everything, yet somehow there's a 2% that looks lacking, so you keep going back to look at it. Others say "it's plenty, you did great," but you're the only one who can't feel satisfied. And sometimes, before you even start, you put it off thinking, "if I can't do it perfectly anyway..."
Perfectionism often wears you out, but at its root is actually a desire to do well and a high standard. And that is by no means a bad thing.
Perfectionism isn't a "flaw"
Pursuing perfection means you have a strong sense of responsibility and that you treasure the details. That care shows in what you make, and people come to trust it.
The problem isn't the "high standard" itself. A high standard is the engine that carries you to a wonderful result.
The problem isn't the standard, it's "when it won't let you rest"
Perfectionism starts to torment you when that standard keeps you from ever being satisfied.
- When you've done it all and still blame yourself with "is this all I managed?"
- When you can't even start for fear it won't be perfect.
- When the joy of the process disappears and only the anxiety over the result remains.
What you need at these moments isn't to throw away your standard, but to practice allowing yourself a point called "good enough." The courage to take your hands off at 85 points instead of 100.
Knowing the grain of your temperament brings balance
When you know in which areas you hold an especially high standard and in which moments your anxiety swells, you can draw the line of "perfect here, just-fine there."
Instead of treating perfectionism as an enemy, make it a switch you know when to turn on and when to turn off.
Start by getting to know your temperament
What grain of perfectionism do you carry?
When you lay your temperament out on a single page with the free personality test, it starts to become a little clearer why you can't take your hands off at that one point. Toward understanding yourself, instead of driving yourself.
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