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How to Read a Season of Drifting Apart From a Close Friend

Sometimes you slowly drift apart from a close friend even though you never fought. We sort drifting apart into four kinds, life rhythms, diverging interests, built-up hurt, and a season of rest, and look at why neither of you reaches out first and what you can try during this time.

Public & private self
When Something You Loved Starts to Feel Like a Chore
If something you used to do for fun suddenly feels like homework, it may not be the thing itself you've come to dislike, but the place where it now sits. Here are four ways it gets heavy as watching eyes, promises, goals, and familiarity attach to it, and five ways to make it light again.
Compatibility
How to Read Yourself When You Feel Jealous
Envy is wanting what someone else has; jealousy is fearing you'll lose what you already have. We read what jealousy points to, and how to turn it into a request instead of hiding it or letting it leak out sideways.
Personality tests
When Apologizing Is Especially Hard
For people who find apologizing hard, “I'm sorry” sounds less like owning one action and more like a verdict on who they are. Why apologies that come easily at work get stuck with the people closest to you, and five ways to apologize by separating the action from yourself.
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When It Takes You a Long Time to Adjust to a New Place
Adjusting comes in layers: people, unspoken rules, routines and spaces, and newness itself. We look at the traits that move at different speeds in each layer, and how to get through the first few weeks, when your social self acts settled while your private self is still unpacking, with less exhaustion.
Public & private self
What's Going On Inside People Who Can't Show Anger
For people who can't show anger, it usually arrives on a delay. In the moment, your social self keeps the scene together, and the anger only shows up once you're alone. Four traits whose anger comes late, and five ways to use swallowed anger inside a relationship.
Compatibility
When a Planner and a Spontaneous Type Travel Together
The same itinerary is reassurance to one person and a fence to the other. We read travel clashes through Organized, Inquisitive and Social, and lay out a way to plan a trip by splitting it into a frame and open blanks.
Public & private self
Why Compliments Make You Uncomfortable
Compliments always land on your social self and its results, but you know every step of the process inside, so they sound like they're about someone else. Four traits that find compliments especially uncomfortable, and five ways to accept praise without pushing it away.
Compatibility
Getting Along When You Text on Different Rhythms
When someone who treats a chat like a room to hang out in meets someone who treats it like a mailbox, one ends up hurt and the other ends up pressured. We read why texting rhythms differ through five traits and lay out five ways friends and partners can find a rhythm that works for both.
Public & private self
Why First Impressions and Real Personality Don't Match
A first impression isn't wrong. It's you, seen from the narrowest angle. We separate the traits that show at a first meeting from the ones that take time, and share five ways to fill in the blanks a first impression leaves.

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How to Read a Season of Drifting Apart From a Close Friend

When Something You Loved Starts to Feel Like a Chore

How to Read Yourself When You Feel Jealous

When Apologizing Is Especially Hard

When It Takes You a Long Time to Adjust to a New Place

What's Going On Inside People Who Can't Show Anger

When a Planner and a Spontaneous Type Travel Together

Why Compliments Make You Uncomfortable

Getting Along When You Text on Different Rhythms

Why First Impressions and Real Personality Don't Match

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